Teen Cliques

A clique is a group of friends who all dress and act a certain way. Teen cliques are also exclusive, which means that not everyone who would like to join a clique can join). Being on the outside of a clique (especially a high school clique) can be lonely and sad. Usually, girls in a clique focus on their status and popularity. They tend to leave out other girls on purpose. To many people, this is a form of bullying.

Girls in a clique bully:

  • To get attention
  • To get what they want
  • To gain respect
  • To become more popular
  • To feel better about themselves
  • To punish people they are jealous of
  • Because they think it's fun to hurt others' feelings
  • Because others are doing it

If you find yourself in a popular clique, you probably know that there can be a lot of peer pressure. You may feel like you need to do things like drink or do drugs to be part of the group. Not so! Remember that you always have the right to say no! Being popular does not mean you have to do what everyone else does. Being in a teen clique does not mean you have to do what everyone else does. YOU have to make decisions based on your beliefs and your values.

If you are on the outside of a clique and you are being picked on, try to make friends with new people who care about YOU. Keep in mind, it is the quality or value of the friendship that counts, not how many friends you have or how popular they are.

It is normal to want to be liked by others, but it is more important to focus on what matters to YOU. Being in a popular clique isn't always what it's cracked up to be.

Having lots of friends and dressing like everyone else may seem important right now, but try to focus on being yourself and having real friends who care about you.

Sources used in this article:
http://www.girlshealth.gov/bullying/whatis/cliques.cfm
http://www.girlshealth.gov/relationships/friendships/index.cfm (This source is no longer available, but I want to recognize where I obtained the material originally.)