Finding friends can seem like a scary task, no matter how old you are or how many friends you've had in the past. It can be frightening to try to meet new people, and it can be tough to get things started. However, there are some great ways to find friends, and the benefits of having friends are well worth the effort.
Whether you're new to the area, or you are simply looking to find friends in a place you've been for years, there are some simple things that you can do to get started. First of all, think about what you'd like in a friendship. Someone who knows you and who likes the same things you do – usually. Therefore, the best place to find friends is at the same places you already enjoy.
For instance, if you are active in your church, finding friends there is great because you know that they'll have basically the same belief system that you do. You can go to youth group meetings, or meetings for people who want to learn more about church activities. If you see someone there who looks like they might be a friend to you, start a conversation. It can be tough to get out there and make the first move, but often the first move is all you'll have to make, because after that, friendships come easily.
Think about the other things that you like to do. If you like to read books, try meeting new people at a bookstore. If you can find someone who is browsing in a section of books that you really enjoy, it is often easy to start up a conversation with them about those books. You can also look for things that they enjoy by reviewing what they're reading. If you like to pick out a few books and sit and have coffee while you read them, look for people who are doing the same things.
Sporting events and groups might be another place to meet friends. If you like to swim, try joining a swimming team or even just a group at the local pool. You'll find friends who you know already have at least one thing in common with you. Often, a competition can be a great way to enhance a friendship – so if you like to compete, join a sports team or another type of team that you can compete with. Your teammates will become friends as the season moves on, and will hopefully remain friends with you after its done.
If you're an artistic person and you like to do things like paint, draw, or play music, there are lots of clubs and organizations that you can join – through school or church, or on your own in your community. Be sure that you find like minded people, no matter where you find them, and strike up a conversation. It might be tough to get out those first few words, but be brave. You might be rewarded with the friend of a lifetime.
Even if it is tough to put yourself out there and make friends, it is so wonderful to have them. Friends will help you work through your problems, and they'll be there for you when you need them. Having friends is one of the best things that you can do for yourself.