If you have ever witnessed bullying at school, you know how horrible it can be for someone. Bullying doesn?t have to be a physical attack, either. It can be a verbal attack, such as teasing, spreading rumors or even intentionally excluding someone from social interaction. It is mean and it hurts people - and it needs to stop.
Do you know someone who bullies others? Have you ever said anything to them? If so, think about this: Standing by and watching someone get bullied is as bad as doing it yourself.
What can you do? Well, that depends on the situation. If someone is in jeopardy of being physically harmed, you need to tell an adult. No one should ever be hurt by anyone else. When bullying at school reaches this level, it's time to get someone involved who can handle the situation. This is not something you can do on your own. You have to be safe yourself while you are making sure the other person gets the help he/she needs.
If you are being bullied or see someone else being bullied, there are some things you can do to improve the situation. The first thing to do is make sure you are never alone when the bully may be able to target you. Always ensure you are in the company of other people.
- When possible, ignore the bully and walk away. Never engage a bully in a battle.
- Do not lose your temper. That is exactly what the bully wants you to do.
- Never start a fight. If the bully hits you, feel free to swing back but make it count. If you know you can't out-hit the bully, find a friend and get an adult involved.
One of the best things you can do after the situation has cooled down is to talk to someone (a teacher, school counselor, parent) about what has happened. Be honest and related what took place without engaging in name-calling yourself. Of course, you are upset, but being able to tell someone what took place while keeping your emotions (especially anger) in check will help the people who want to help you.
If you think that keeping bullying at school to yourself is a great option, forget it. No one can resolve the issues if everything is kept "hush-hush". Do not expect teachers to see what's going on. You need to tell them what's going on. Teachers can't always tell when teens are joking or if a real problem exists. If you tell someone and you don't think anything is being done about it, be persistent and/or talk to someone else. Don't just sit back and hope it all goes away.
When someone is a bully, they can do serious physical and emotional harm to others. If no one is willing to stand up to a bully, the behavior will likely continue into adulthood. When this happens, the situation can turn deadly. When an intervention is done early enough, there is a good chance that something can be done to help the bully change directions and forge a new, more positive path through life.
Stop bullying at school by doing your part. If you see someone being bullied, help the person who is being treated unfairly first. Then, tell an adult about the bullying and see that the bully gets help, too. No one should ever be bullied.